Author: stuart

  • It was fifteen years ago today …

    Fifteen years ago today I had a first kiss. It changed my life.

    That kiss led me to five years of marriage – a state into which I was certain up until then that I would never enter.

    That kiss led to me learning how to better communicate my emotional needs and desires, to learning how to be a better listener and (hopefully) a better partner.

    It led to the discovery that monogamy is not necessarily one-size-fits-all, and that it no longer fit me. I’ve spent the last fifteen years in non-monogamous relationships – sometimes in a state of ease, other times in conflict, internal and external – and expect that I will continue to do so as long as I have romantic relationships.

    It led to finally finding my people in Seattle after three years casting about. (I miss you deeply.)

    It also led me to my favorite city on earth, Black Rock City. It led to Burning Man and the gloriously effusive Burner culture which has welcomed me pretty much everywhere I’ve been in the intervening years. It has become an enormous part of my life, to the point where I was involved organizationally for three years in Seattle, and am now here in Spain with Nowhere and other local and regional events.

    So, I tip my glass to you, dear unwife. Happy Kissaversary.

  • Hi, it’s me again.

    It has been a Very Long Time since I last wrote here. But well, today’s kind of a big deal. You see, two years ago today I left Seattle, embarking on my plan to ride my motorcycle to Bangkok.

    But a funny thing happened on the way: I fell in love with Europe and decided to stick around for a while. I’ve been in Barcelona now for almost 14 months, still loving it. I don’t really see any reason to leave any time soon, though (much like when I left Seattle) I’m open to possibility.

    It has been an interesting time. The work I’ve been expecting hasn’t come through (long story, that), though I now have several interesting opportunities on the horizon. In the meantime, I’ve visited friends around Europe, made amazing connections, learned some Spanish, gotten involved with the local burner & nooner (attendees of Nowhere) community, and generally had a wonderful time.

    Looking forward to seeing what’s next!

  • Twitter Weekly Updates for 2012-01-27

    • Finding a cheap place in Marrakech for a month with kitchen and wifi is a little bit challenging. I'm sure something will come up. #fb #
    • I just bought a pair of size 34 jeans. I haven't worn this size since 1996. #fb #
    • Moroccan drivers at stoplights seem obligated to honk as soon the light changes, to ensure cars ahead of them know it's time to go. #fb #

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  • Twitter Updates for 2012-01-20

    • Warring food cravings today: Full English Breakfast vs. brown rice, veggies, tofu, tahini sauce. Neither is a viable option. #fb #

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  • Itchy Brain Syndrome

    It’s good to have options, except for the times when choosing between them becomes difficult.

    For the last few weeks, I’ve been intending to head south for a bit, traveling through Mauritania to visit Senegal and perhaps Mali. I even spent several days in Rabat and paid about $50 for a dual-entry transit visa for Mauritania.

    For a number of reasons, I’ve decided to forgo this plan for now. Key among these reasons is that my brain has started feeling a bit itchy. I’ve had – and enjoyed! – lots of leisure time recently, but taking on a small personal programming project has made me realize that I’ve become too intellectually idle.

    Brain wants more to do than read and drift? Okay, brain, time for a new plan.

    As I’ve probably mentioned here before, I’ve felt linguistically illiterate since arriving in Europe, as I’ve met so many people who speak three, four, five languages (or more). In order to address this, I’m returning to Marrakech tomorrow, and intend to spend a month or so studying French. It’s a beautiful language, incredibly useful around the world, and something I’ve wanted to learn for a while. I took a week of lessons in Nice last fall, and have picked up a bit more during my six weeks in Morocco (it is the second language here).

    I’m happy to have a plan in place beyond just going to the next place and seeing the next thing. Let’s see how long before the brain rebels again.

  • Twitter Updates for 2012-01-19

    • Today marks nine months since I left Seattle. I've gone through 15 US states and 19 countries so far. Hopefully more this summer. #fb #

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  • Meknes

    By the time Jane and I set off from Chefchaouen, we had stayed a night longer than expected both there and our first stop, Asilah. We did so once again in our next destination, Meknes. During our time together, we had several conversations about the difference between tourists and travelers – both falling into the latter category. We (like others I’ve met who self-identify as travelers) tend to be interested in kicking back and getting the feel of a place, a slower pace which often lends itself to staying longer than expected.

    While in Chaouen, we got to pick the brains of Terry and Suzanne (our guesthouse hosts and long-time Moroccan expats, as mentioned in my previous post) about things to see and do while in Morocco. We’d been considering a visit to Fes, but they indicated that it’s quite the tourist trap – worth a day trip at most – and that we might want to stay in Meknes instead. We already wanted to visit Volubilis, the 2nd century Roman ruins about 40km north of Meknes, so decided to heed this advice.

    On arriving, we pulled into the main parking lot and figured out that we could leave BOB (my trusty steed, short for Big Orange Beast) there for 20dh per night (about $2.25). Then we were faced with the somewhat daunting task of actually finding the riad where we’d reserved a room, given that it was deep in the heart of the Medina. While I set to the now too-familiar task of unloading all of our gear off of BOB, Jane set off with the somewhat dubious assistance of one of the local touts, who abandoned her to her own devices with a dismissive “that way” wave once she’d made it abundantly clear that we weren’t interested in his services as a Medina tour guide after we’d settled in.

    A while later, she returned with Samir – cheerful, charming and mostly toothless, he’s one of the brothers who own the place we were staying. He helped us enlist the services of one of the many fellows who make their wages pushing carts of luggage, goods and so forth through the Medina, and off we went.

    Meknes was my first experience of an expansive Medina – at first, seemingly a maze of twisty little passages, all alike. We enjoyed wandering aimlessly within its walls and close alleys, peeking our heads down this passage and that, seeing what’s just around the next corner. We didn’t enjoy the steady stream of young men attempting in vain to entice us into their restaurants in the Place L’Hadim, just outside the Medina and across from the famed Bab Mansour gate, considered one of the finest Berber-style gates in Morocco.

    Some highlights of our time in Meknes:
    – Upon approaching a crowd gathered in the plaza, Jane was singled out and drawn inside the circle to act as assistant to the cheerful fellow performing magic tricks. He drew lots of laughs from the crowd with his running commentary, mostly in Arabic but with bits of French when talking with Jane.
    – Exploring the food souk – vendors of all sorts of olives, preserved lemons and pickles; many butchers, where you could buy chickens, rabbits, beef and lamb, even a whole cow’s head if you were so inclined; spice merchants with huge colorful mounds of cumin, ginger, turmeric, prepared mixtures of spices for tagine; lots of breads, little colorful sweet pastries; dried figs strung together like delicious rosaries, raw and roasted almonds, dates of many different qualities.
    – Man, sometimes it seems like everyone wants to sell you something. The most awkward and amusing of these was the guy who walked up to us as we were engaged in an intense conversation, gesturing at us with three or four live chickens in each hand. No, thank you, we don’t want to buy a chicken right now. No, really.
    – Sampling local Moroccan wine! This entailed visiting the Marjane – a Morocco-wide “hypermarket” chain, and one of the few places to buy alcohol (remember that Morocco is an Islamic country, and as such alcohol sales are heavily controlled). Domaine Rimal, Bonassia and Cuvee du President were all pleasing choices – if not particularly refined or complex – available for around $5-6 per bottle. Apparently if you step up into the $15-20 range there are some very impressive wines available, but I haven’t yet made such top-shelf selections.

    For me, the main attraction of our visit in Meknes was the day trip to Volubilis. While it is primarily thought of as a Roman ruin, its history extends back before the Roman incursion into North Africa. Covering an area of 45 hectares (about 130 acres), Volubilis – known to Moroccans as Oualili – is a very impressive spot, and well worth the visit. We hired a guide, and were both very happy that we did. He was an older guy, and had spent most of his life in Volubilis in some capacity. He began spending time there as a youth, when his father was hired as a cook for the French archaeologists who were excavating and restoring the site, and eventually knew enough about the site to begin working as a guide. He told us much about the site’s history, expounding on the public areas, olive oil production, waterworks throughout the city, homes of wealthy merchants (some as large as 800 sq m, or about 8800 sq ft), and even the local brothels.

  • Chefchaouen, Morocco

    After our time in Asilah, Jane and I headed on to Chefchaouen. A lovely everything-painted-blue town in the Rif Mountains, and apparently one of the hashish capitols of the world. When we stopped in town to try and figure out where our guesthouse was (quite a ways out of the main part of town, and a challenge to find), we were offered “best-quality, double-A” several times within about ten minutes. And it didn’t really let up the whole time we were there.

    Again, we spent several days here – one day exploring the city (and then getting rather lost trying to walk home again after dark), and another doing a day-trip into the mountains, in hopes of hiking into a theoretically-beautiful gorge. Sadly, we’d gotten a late-ish start, and then stopped for a leisurely lunch – food being a big bond between us – resulting in us realizing we’d be hiking back down in the dark if we tried to make it all the way up to the gorge. A lovely day nonetheless.

    Despite its out-of-the-way location, our guesthouse was fun. Owned by Terry and Suzanne, a witty Scottish expat couple, it felt more like staying in the home of new friends than my previous guesthouse experiences. They’d recently begun experimenting with making their own hooch – it being an hour drive to the closest spot to by alcohol – with water, sugar and some super-high-octane yeast. We tried it with juice, lemons, tonic – but my favorite creation was mixing it with hot black tea. Sort of a poor man’s hot toddy. They were also big fans of the aforementioned local agricultural products – you can imagine that with this combination there was lots of humorous, rambling conversation.

    Actually, backing up a bit: as we were leaving Asilah, Nabil mentioned that we should stop at one of the roadside barbecue stands on the road to Chaouen (as the locals call it). We did so. It took a little while to orient ourselves, what with the multiple hanging carcasses, big open grill area, a butcher-shop window and a separate restaurant area for “other” – salads, frites, drinks, etc. We ended up ordering 200g of lambchops, 200g of viande hachee (ground meat, again lamb in this case), a salade marocaine (diced tomatoes, onions, cucumber), fries and a bowl of olives. None of it was outstanding, as you might expect, but it was a thoroughly enjoyable roadside dining experience.

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  • A Month in Morocco

    If you’re following me on twitter or facebook, you probably know by now that I’ve been touring Morocco for the last month. Currently I’m enjoying a reasonably warm, sunny day in Rabat (after several days of foggy-clammy-cold), as I await a transit visa for Mauritania.

    I’ve spent most of this month traveling with a companion, for the first substantial length of time since leaving Seattle nearly nine months ago. I met Jane, a wonderful Australian woman, in Italy in October at a Burning Man inspired festival called Italian Burning Weekend, and we spent the following week together exploring Rome and Umbria. After she returned to Australia, we kept in touch through the magic of the intertubes, and eventually she asked me if she could join me in Morocco to travel and spend more time together. After discussing logistics and challenges, we decided to forge ahead with this plan, so she met me in Tangier a day after I arrived, and we embarked on a wild gallivant all over this diverse and glorious place.

    We started our journey in Asilah, a small Atlantic coastal city about 25km south of Tangier. We stayed for several nights at a nice guesthouse (where I had my first experience parking my motorcycle inside the house!). It was a short walk to the medina, lots of restaurants and the local hammam (public baths). We spent our first full day there in a pleasing meander through the medina and up onto a seawall promontory poking outside the wall, and then through the chaotic streets of the city. We enjoyed the first of many coffees and mint teas. We ate boiled snails (or rather, I did – they weren’t to Jane’s liking) while out and about with Nabil, the charismatic (and well-known amongst the locals) manager of the guesthouse.

    For me, one of the highlights of Asilah was my first visit to the hammam. I had little idea what to expect, so I paid for bath & massage, shed my clothes, entered the steamy interior and did my standard routine of observing what the locals do. Sat down on the warm, water-slick tile floor and started pouring buckets of hot water over my head and body. After a few minutes, a young guy came in and filled up several larger buckets and positioned them next to me. Next thing I knew, he gestured for me to lie down on the tiles, which I did. He then proceeded to scrub me all over with a rough mitt and an odd black soap. Flip over? Okay. Rinse. Flip over again. Now for the massage. Imagine a combination of the wimpiest deep-tissue massage ever and somewhat rushed, inexpert Thai massage, on a hard tile floor. Despite this (or, perhaps, because of it?) I felt quite invigorated afterwards, so I sat and enjoyed a few more buckets of hot water. Odd but enjoyable, and for all of about $4.

    The next few posts will capture other stops in Jane and Stuart’s Whirlwind Tour of Morocco, with observations scattered in along the way.

  • “Why haven’t you been posting?”

    Greetings from Morocco!

    I’ve gotten the question “Why haven’t you been posting?” a couple of times lately, and I don’t have a solid answer. Mostly, I’ve just been enjoying being present in my travels, and haven’t felt inspired to pull myself out of that state in order to reflect and write about my experiences.

    That said, I’m currently importing photos from Italy and Morocco from my camera onto my laptop (the only photos I took in Barcelona were with my phone), so hope / intend to post some of those in the coming days (after some time spent on photo processing, of course).

    I do appreciate those that have asked – it’s nice to know I’m missed. More soon(-ish).